Defining success for yourself is a step in the right direction of success...

Hello, I’m Souhaila, a twenty-four year old lifestyle blogger living in Morocco. I’ve been blogging for four years now, Todaysouhaila / is my little space where I document anything and everything I’m loving, from my trips, favourite recipes, inspirations… but also where I share personal entries and tips on figuring out your twenties.

Since I can remember, I’ve always linked my success to certain aspects of my life, during childhood I was measuring my success with school grades and the gratification I get from my family on results day, teenage years were no different but with a bit more pressure added in and by the time I blew my eighteen birthday candles out... you guessed it, I only was blessed with even more pressure to be successful, and by that I mean: having a career plan, figuring out what I want to do after graduation all while striving to ensure getting the marks that will allow me to get into the school I plan on. Spoiler alert: I didn’t enter that school, and as easy as it’s for me to say this now, it was tough for me to accept it for so long, I think it was my first time putting a picture to the word “failure”, because not succeeding to achieve what you worked hard for - and what you thought was the setting stone to your desired career - can only mean you failed at succeeding.

Now that I’m in my mid-twenties, and have had my fair share of wins and losses, I’ve gradually learnt that my definition of success was highly influenced by what society makes it be and I slowly started making my definition of what success means to me because I believe that the term success is subjective and arbitrary, it can’t have an absolute definition that’s relevant for everyone.

I see society’s vision of a successful person very harmful, it sets certain criterias to be met and standards to be ticked to gain the “successful person label”, and with the digital world taking over our lives more and more - especially social media taking part in creating the successful life prototype and influencers unintentionally helping glorifying it and keeping it perpetuated- working nonstop, crossing off your endless to-do list by the end of the day,… doing things while planning the next things to do, being here and wanting to be there, it’s a never-ending itch to achieve more and more without stopping. we always get bombarded by quotes that seem to be directed for machines more than humans, “don’t stop when you are tired, stop when you’re done”, “I’ve got a dream worth more than my sleep”… hustle culture is glamorised at the expense of our mental health and wellbeing.

I’m a big advocate for achieving goals, being a student of life, pursuing passions, trying new things … and I consider these to be the main ingredients for a fulfilling life, and consequently, leading to my vision of success, which is constantly changing, and I don’t see myself settling on one definition any time soon, I think when success is more related to non-materialistic aspects of life or outer world validation, It’s hard to say that you achieved success but rather it’s a continuously active process.

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