Hey I’m Sophie, founder of SHOWUP and this series ‘VICTORY’, is a series that I really wanted to create because the pressure of being ‘successful’ is real for me and so I was sure that there were loads of girls that could resonate.
I live by to-do lists and the notes app on my phone because my brain is constantly going 100 miles an hour. I always have some idea or another thing I can be doing to allow me to achieve higher.
But over the last few years I’ve realised that I can be really hard on myself. If I had 10 things on my to-do’s and I completed 9 of them I would feel like a failure, or if I had 10 things to do and did 13 I would feel like I hadn’t been pushing myself hard enough previously - it’s tough being inside your own mind sometimes!
It can often feel too much and that what I want to achieve is so far away that I’ll never reach it, getting into a downward spiral of negative emotions, so that I don’t want to do anything to help myself and I become really self-destructing. I'd be so interested to know if other people feel this way too actually. Please comment if you do!
Before SHOWUP, straight after I finished uni I set up a healthy food company and long story short I fell out of love with it. I was only 22/23 and I felt so much responsibility and so much pressure to be more grown up than I wanted to be. So I decided to go and live in Australia for two years.
Over there, my life didn’t feel like it was defined by success. Everyone had the same mindset that happiness, health and having a good time was at the top of the agenda, and a career and being ‘successful’ was second to that.
It was during these two years that I had this chance to allow my mind to breathe and realise that ‘success’ was not the main goal of life. I still love achieving and creating as these are the things that make me feel alive. I love listening to podcasts and reading books to educate myself further, but I’ve learnt to counter balance knowledge based learning with mindset books and podcasts - I love ‘Jay Shetty - On Purpose’ for this. Doing this allows more perspective and means my mind isn’t so consumed on that one thing.
I want you to know that I’m not saying that wanting to be successful is in anyway a bad thing - it’s bloody amazing and ignites the fire in your soul. However it’s when you get so caught up on that definition that you can become unhappy. Success is not defined in one way, everyone has their own individual victories.
I have also by no means conquered this feeling and there are days for example that I think what I’m doing at SHOWUP is silly and why did I think I could do this. But then when people get joy from sending their friend something or reading the Posi-cards I’ve designed and resonating with them and messaging me, it makes it all worth it.
So let’s lift each other up, celebrate any ‘successes’ and enjoy the journey, because success amounts from all the small things and it’s not a destination, it’s infinite!